I dont get how someone can break up their family without trying to work on the marriage. My names James, Im 25. That there was my mistake in itself. Listen Im going thru the same thing bro.fiance left me for her young boss..we have a 2 year old daughter and I went from having our own apartment to me moving back with my mother and starting over and shes still dealing with him for the past 4months now. I will never get over this, I am hurting so much. My experience has taught me that you can only rely on one person in this world to love you unconditionally and that is Jesus. Two weeks after I left shes out dancing and posting pictures on Facebook and instagram while I worry about my kids well being shes out having fun. I am still learning the scope of the damage that was done to me. Its been a week and everyday I tell her I love her and she never says it back, the week she wanted the separation I had a sezuire and she was right there beside the hospital bed crying and even when we went home she had trouble sleeping wanting to make sure Im was ok then a couple days later boom she leaves me. DEAR ABBY: I live with my longtime boyfriend, "George," and his 88-year-old father, "Frank." Frank is not your average 88-year-old. We fell apart in every way possible. I miss her deeply. I met a woman on-line and its going great but it is long distance If you do a search on the topic you will find that studies are revealing an epidemic of infidelity right now. My x married her affair partner within the allowed 60 days of our divorce finalized. However, there are some people who always need that new high of love, and those are often the people who fall out of love and move on to something new. Say what you will, but there's often quite a bit of truth to jokes. My therapist said I may never get an answer and for my black-and-white brain is a little difficult. The mediator couldnt understand why we were getting divorced. With Elizabeth Vargas, PMDD Quiz: Do I Have Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. He is going back to his daddys at 30 years old because he will have no responsibility. Breaks my heart and puts my own unfortunate situation in perspective. We both feel so strongly that we are right for each other, we trully do love each other. Six months that I have been experiencing the utmost happiness, while also experiencing the most gut-wrenching guilt. Not just on the weekends. It hit me like a ton of bricks. All he has said, via text, is that im an awful person who talks down to him which is not true. I know times have changed and lives have gotten in the way. . My husband left me after 21 years to find his happiness and looking for an emotional connection because we were miles apart. Take a step back look in the mirror .If you have everything but see nothing where does the problem lie. You don't feel understood. Im in Oregon. Im saying this because professional coaches at Relationship Hero helped me not only once but twice to get through a difficult time in my love life. As hard as it might be to hear, there might have been some ongoing issues that had not been dealt with, which is why it might seem unexpected for one partner, but it has been brewing under the surface for a while, says Diana Garcia, a licensed mental health counselor from Weston, Florida. I dont know how youre not happy when Ive given you everything you asked for. I did however have enough control of my wits to get a lawyer and try to speak for my innocence in court. Dont you think you deserve better than that???? You have known him for a week and you invite him into my bed with our children and you get suspiciously soo tired your eyes are rolling to the back of your head??? So it is tough to swallow. Individuals who lost 5 percent of their body weight over the course of four years were more likely to feel depressed . Our website services, content, and products are for informational purposes only. You worry about getting your head right, and moving on. Please send me strength. GoodTherapy | Top 5 Reasons a Partner Leaves (and How to Cope) I was forced to leave my home as there is no available help there at all and what help is available is on a wait list and is for a facility outside my territory only (and the wait list is between 6-10 months). My Husband Left Me And Now He's Acting Miserable. Why? I lost everything, my marriage, my home, my family, my friends, my belongings my routine.I had just finished my career in the Army 27 years. The important thing here is that you find someone who can make you feel good again. Well then I would follow up at the dirt cheap stores where she was getting this butane from and I was able to get identification that she was still purchasing this stuff. If My Husband's That Unhappy, Why Doesn't He Just Divorce Me? So sad .. Hi Susan how is your leg? 3 grown daughters. Has anyone given you a chance to tell your side of the story? Just know you are not alone. This is my 2nd failed marriage. In the month it took for me to pull myself together enough to find the help I need and make the arrangements she moved out of our home and withdrew from me even more. She lied and broke my heart. Neither of us if ever been unfaithful so far as I know. I cry every night of the pain I feel. We started to date and things moved along. That stayed off the booze with your love and support then started to lie and drink because theyre bipolar. Within a month she snaps the axel and damages the side of her car at a gas station pillar that protects the pumps. I have no ideas that will provide you comfort. Its just an observation but she seems to have also removed all responsibility from her life its scary. Dont be a victim . If those people were true friends they would tell them that what they are doing or have done is wrong . I am unsure what to do. Im so hurt n lost. I cant get over him.I love him so deeply its killing me inside. Every few weeks. Me if I did nothing then to love him.I asked him to tell me the truth and he said he was confused that loved me but he also had feelings again for her. When we met we had both been divorced so we started with the big stuff. She doesnt call for two days. I am absolutely disgusted by their behavior. I think you need to look inside yourself and ask yourself what you,Dan needs and deserves. You can find online communities everywhere. Totally relate. Wonderful husband. One of the best things I heard directed at someone else- A christian man or woman shouldnt violate the conscience of their spouse, I hope some day I will be able to give myself fully to someone again, but it will be a while. Im going to go cry some more before he comes home to dump me over dinner. (2009). My doctors didnt know how to help me. we just chose our own path & wonder why 2 sinners cant make it together. I must also add that I am an incredibly honest person and I have never been afraid to tell people exactly what I think The councilor suggested that I pay a visit to my gynecologist to get things checked out. I agree with you 100%, but how do you hang in there and try to fix things when only one of you is mature enough to realize that love is a choice, and that if you can get through the rough patch, things will get better? But she left me with all unnecessary fear and stick to her parents decisions who doesnt know the ground reality but imagineIm praying to god please pray for me. Dont fall for it ! My heart aches with yours. Dated on and off for 30y., 2 scholar-athlete teens, 4 college degrees between us, 3 solid careers and a nearly paid off house, and four years of kids college pre paid. I been with my sons father for 8 years and throughout the whole 8 years he never treated me like a real person he always treated me like I was one of his friends and I never had the respect given from him to me but anyhow I stayed in this relationship it was rocky on and off I even left eight months in 2013 and he came back in 2014 of December and things have not been right every since I asked him cuz he have a history of cheating on me while we were in our relationship and always ask about other people were there at and why do you choose to keep coming back well I got a bit of a surprise in January of 2015 I was with him and that was the last time Ive been with him I found out that he have had a friend on the side and Im actually okay with that because the relationship has been rocky since the beginning so I just want to know why he didnt tell me straight forward that he was leaving me for another woman. My actually became a Judge in another County. My wife denies it. I still love her and want to be with her for the rest of my life. We were happy. for some of us who hates dating and hate being with other people. We got a house then tried for another baby. I am truly lost without her. They might cry a lot more often unexpectedly. ! Sorry for your situation i am also dealing with a similar situation I was just told by a woman I have been with for 9 years who is also the mother of our 5yo daughter that we will not be getting married next month as planned she will be getting married to someone else this was completely out of no where considering the past five mo have been nothing but me working no less than 80 hours a week as many as 120 just killing myself to build our house and support our family not only did she leave me alone on Christmas she took my daughter and went to be with this man thats older than her granparents she refused to give me a few hours wth my kid Christmas Day eventually I took my daughter that evening thing I cant figure is she was telling everyone of our apparent wedding date and spending all my money saying how she loves me so much and cant wait to be married just hours before she decided it was not what she wants now being in a smaller town immediately everyone knows i felt really low like Im young and have my own business I felt like I was doin ok trying to build a future and she leaves me for an old man I was not only heartbroken but also felt so embarrassed ashamed angry I couldnt even pick my head up I couldnt look anyone in the eye it has been pretty much the most humiliating horrible thing I have ever experienced as a recovering addict I hit a low that far exceeded my worst days of being a herion addict at this point Im still in what ppl wold consider a risky time period for relaps however its just not an option i just refuse to go back to that miserable exestiance being fully clean I felt alive for the first time in years I was feeling happier than Id ever been my life was going great I just couldnt be thankful enough I was at an all time high in life my daughter was just doing great got my business going beautiful woman life was just perfect and then it happened hit a low I never knew where did this come from this woman I trusted with my life how could she just leave me I never thought I could feel so horrible using has not been an issue I know the outcome and I dont need it never got a sorry or nothing not a dam thing it just goes on an on the things got worse and worse big mess she just wont stop trying to ruin my life point is my friend I made really do love this woman more than I can express but I have chosen to sever this wicked witch from my life other than picking up or dropping off my kid as much as it hurts not to fight for her she must not love anyone but herself if she is so willing to risk putting my daughter into a broken home possibility of triggering relapse that will certainly end my life the shame she puts on all of us the lies told for months in church to her parents that happen to be the most amazing ppl I have ever known broke their hearts as well due to their religious stand point and the relationship I have with them this was very disappointing to them disappointed is an understatement I actually was feeling bad about how much it hurt them I couldnt believe it these ppl loved me and their grandchild so much that it really really destroyed their hopes after all they had done to help us get our lives together including the financial means to build a house that was for the three of us something I could not have ever imagined living in without them I originally was doing the house just to help them do whatever they wanted to do with it but then they were just like by the way when its done you guys can have it we only worked nights weekends on it because I never would let them pay me even when I had no idea they would give it to us just because they had already done so much for me in the years I been with their daughter one of the harder things about loosing my girl was that I love her parents like they were my own and I have for many years through all this nothing will ever change between her parents and myself that is a big help I try not to be angry its not been but a matter of days Im up and down I just cant be with a woman that is so selfish and put my daughter through any more than she has endured she has been through enough and I dont have time to give my relationship it all needs to focus on my daughter not to mention that her mother has not shown or made any indication that she is sorry or even willing to come back if you feel like you cant live without her you can I feel the same way but I know I have loved before and I can again in time so can you if you feel you can work it out and move forward with a good result go for it this is not the first time this woman has done this to me you see we have been down this road and all I can say is this was the last time I already know she will make an attempt to come back at some point but I can not let her as much as it hurts and I want to be with her were humans too we deserve better than the pain that type of situation puts us in most times they do it once they will do it again I also have found that in my experience the more beautiful she is on the outside the person in that beautiful shell is ugly rotten there are girls that are beautiful all the way around you just have to be willing to look for them cause they are out there then you gotta be smart enough not to let them get away no matter what no woman is out of any mans league thats just what ppl say that dont have the confidence to get what they want dont feel like you have to accept being cheated on because your not gonna find someone better thats just not true and inner beauty is the way to go Ive had relationships with both and the the pretty ones always make life unbearable I have only met a small handful of women that were beautiful and not messed up in the head beyond repair I have met tons of girls I was not attracted to that by the end of a conversation were suddenly starting to be interesting eventually I become very attracted to and they have been the best girlfriends hands down this has been my personal experience I dont know if it helps but writing about it helps me and hopefully you werent like me and your woman was cheating with an old man this girl is super hot 26 and she is sleeping with an old man I mean like sixty thats just I hope thats not your situation its pretty damaging to my pride manhood whatever but in reality its not me what sane person does that I thought what if I did that to her with some old woman no thanks Im not into it even if I was Id be ashamed enough not too be open about it so if anything you can get a laugh out of it I used to always joke with this girl about her doin this when we watched the movie big daddy once and after that it was just a little joke we had apparently I was joking ok well I hope you come to solution that leaves you happy I am not happy about the choice I made but I just have to do it its hard to imagine the woman you love being with someone thats not you no matter how old or young either way it still hurts and makes you feel like life is over but u gotta take care of the little ones gotta be their dad nobody can be his or her dad better than u and dont go back into something you know is over but you dont want to accept it thats what I did even when she told me she loved me I knew she didnt but she would lie to me and i would pretend like she was telling the truth because I didnt want to accept it was really over for good at some point I knew I would have to so now is as good as any good luck to you I hope you get the best possible outcome just remember your not any less important than her if you let yourself slip into that idea they will walk all over you but I dont know I dont want to give bad advice thats just my experience everything I said is the way it happened for me but cant say for anyone else women are all a little bit crazy in some way guess we all are, Stay strong brotha.